Hammers and Nails

“If all you have is a hammer, everything looks like a nail.”

-Abraham Maslow

Today is the day a bimbo writes about cognitive biases. Bet you didn’t have that on your bingo card!

Law of the Instrument

The world is a big scary place. To survive, humanity has evolved and adapted shortcuts. These biases serve us well in fight or flight situations. But when applied to a modern setting, these shortcuts can be unhelpful.

One such shortcut is known as the Law of the Instrument or Maslow’s Hammer. There have been variations on this concept but the gist is that people tend to view problems through familiar lenses. If you know how to use a hammer, you’re more likely to try to use it in situations where it may not be ideal.

I’m not interested in that kind of tool.

The Law of Instruments can apply to any mental framework or filter on which we rely. This is completely natural. We all do it. We can only experience the world as it exists through our own limited filters. There are sounds the human ear can’t hear. Colors we can’t see. They exist even if we can’t perceive them.

Those kinds of physical limitations are easy to understand. But our perceptions are also limited by other factors. For example, I know nothing about wine. If I went to a wine tasting, the subtle details would be lost on me. If I were to educate myself on the subject, my appreciation would grow.

What Does Any of This Have to Do With Second Life?

Okay. I’m either restating something that is obvious to you or blowing your mind. You might be like, “What is this bimbo even saying?” And I’d understand that reaction. I am a few paragraphs in and I haven’t even talked about my enormous flesh globes. Bad bimbo!

The first year or so of my Second Life experience was spent largely with the erotic hypnosis community. It’s a fun group if you don’t mind being changed into a mindless, horny fuckdoll. I was all like “yes, please!”

A lot of people I knew from those days are still into it. It still holds a lot of appeal to me as well. But after a while I started to feel like I was in a time loop. Everything came back around to hypnosis. There are different kinds of trances, but mostly they come down to the same thing; turning the subject into an obedient slut.

I’m not trying to be critical of the hypno community. There’s a lot of fun to be had there. I’m just using them as an example. I found a lot of people were trapped repeating the same scripts over and over again. They would play out the same way every time. But there was an unwillingness or inability to change the narrative.

The Time Warp Again

A recent example in my Second Life is Daddy Cal. He’s been playing the same games in Second Life for at least a decade. My own involvement with Cal has been limited because I knew his reputation. Also, my bimbo bullshit detector works just fine. I can see guys like Cal coming from miles away.

Cal wants to tell a narrative in which he is a jet setting “man of the hour” (yes, his words). To play that part, he needs pretty girls as arm candy. That’s a part I am well-suited for. I will happily play it when properly incentivized. Long story short, Cal fucked that up.

I couldn’t even be angry with him. I knew his patterns. He can’t help himself. He’s got a script he wants to play out. If there is any variation, he gets frustrated and blows things up. It happens roughly every ten days.

What’s amazing is that Cal is heavily invested in social media. He keeps broadcasting the story of his romantic failures. He seems unaware that people remember the loop. Like he’s wiping our memories every time he restarts. I don’t think he can help himself. Cal’s going to keep trying to play out this story indefinitely.

I’m not trying to pick on Cal any more than I am critical of Second Life hypnotists. As long as everyone is having fun, who cares? No one is harmed. I have played a supporting character in a lot of people’s SL stories with no regrets. Just don’t expect me to stick around for infinite performances of the same show.

Unstuck

This is where a lot of people get stuck. They keep whacking away with their hammer instead of picking up another tool. It’s human nature, but it can run us around in circles. In Second Life, there’s even less of an excuse for it. SL is a safe space. You can get out of your comfort zone and experience new things with minimal risk.

I actually unblocked Cal recently. Just to be nice. I believe in second chances and all that. Don’t you know he repeated the same loop in less than 24 hours? SMH. I feel bad for him. How much would it suck to be trapped as a failed playboy?

I’m as guilty of this as anyone. After getting fired from my old job, I went running back for more. Because I just wasn’t ready to let that go. Since my second firing, I’ve been looking into similar alternatives. But I don’t want to repeat the same mistakes.

I want to make all new ones. LOL

And that’s where being a bimbo can be really hard or really easy. A stereotypical bimbo does the same thing over and over again. Her narrative is a straight line. There’s never any growth or development. You quickly run out of new experiences. Bimbos don’t care. They will endlessly suck and fuck.

But I’m not that kind of bimbo. I’m always looking for something new. And it just so happens, I’m about to embark on a new adventure.

More to come…