The Hard Truth About Sugar Daddies in Second Life

So, you wanna be a sugar daddy? I can’t blame you. Sugar daddies are awesome. They are rich. Powerful. Rich. Surrounded by luxury and beautiful women. And also, filthy rich. Regular readers know my luxe life is funded entirely by my sugar daddies. I have never delved into the specifics of how that works… until now.

Living in a Material World

Let’s get real. The “sugar daddy” relationship is another form of role play in Second Life. There are no specific requirements. A reader reached out to me asking for details about being a daddy. It’s a topic I’ve been meaning to write about for a while now. I touched on some of this recently when I wrote about male expectations in SL. I have talked to too many salty guys. They didn’t feel like they got what they paid for when gifting girls in SL. Don’t be one of those guys.

The thing about the “sugar daddy” role is that he’s rich. He can throw money around and not worry about it. Sugar daddies are powerful. Everyone sucks up to daddy. Some sugar daddies are playboys. Think Hugh Hefner. They have a mansion full of playmates. All the girls compete for his attention. The Playboy takes care of all the girls to varying degrees. That’s how he keeps them all around.

Then there are trophies. When a sugar daddy has a trophy, there’s a level of exclusivity. How much or how little is negotiable. A trophy is completely spoiled. She doesn’t pay for anything. Ideally, she never has to ask for anything. It’s always provided. In exchange, daddy is the boss. What he says goes. If someone is paying out trophy money, the details should really be negotiated up front. You don’t want any unpleasant surprises on either side.

I am a Material Girl

The obvious issue here is the money. You can role play this stuff without spending any real money. But where’s the fun in that? Bimbo economics comes into play. Lots of people – male and female – want me to be their trophy. There’s only one of me and lots of them. So, it’s simply not feasible. I have to be selective with who I pick and how many sugar daddies I have at any given time.

This is something I struggle with. I don’t like telling people ‘no’. Empathy gets the better of me and I end up putting up with some pretty bad behavior. Several posts here at Bimbo Luxe were inspired by guys missing the mark. I’m here to help y’all. I can tell you what works and what doesn’t because I’ve seen it all!

At one point, I considered drafting a daddy program. But I’ve never felt comfortable formalizing it. For one thing, it basically puts me back into sex work. It’s no different from being an escort. I think a daddy should be more than that. Also, I’ve had guys reach out to me who have fallen on hard times financially. I’m not interested in taking their last dollar. But I also don’t want to turn them away just because.

One question the reader asked was about property. Do sugar daddies need to have their own place? How impressive does it have to be? All that. There are girls in Second Life for whom that is important. For the first several years I spent in SL, I always lived with a daddy. Or they set me up with a place of my own where they visited me. Nowadays, I have my own place. So, I’m not really looking for a mansion daddy. It’s nice for role play purposes, but not something I need.

There are people I call “daddy” who have never given me a single Linden. I’m not really a gold digger – at least not all the time. It takes something special to get my attention for free. You also just have to get lucky with the timing. I’m very busy in Second Life, so the windows of opportunity are few and far between. Join my in-world group if you want to know when I’m free.

The Truth About Sugar Daddies

I guess it’s time to talk money. Like all aspects of life, money talks. Sending me Lindens will get my attention. You can just send me money out of the blue. But that’s risky. If I’m free, I’ll drop whatever I’m doing. There are times when I can’t do that. If someone gifts me something, I do my best to give them something in return. But there’s no guarantees you’re going to get what you want unless you negotiate terms first.

Negotiating isn’t sexy. It’s runs counter to the role play of a rich guy with money to burn. But most guys aren’t sugar daddies in real life. So, some negotiation is a good idea. Any bimbo/trophy is going to understand the need for it. I am often asked how long I’ll be on. What are my limits. Whatever is important to you, clear the air so there are no misunderstandings.

Second Life sugar daddies often spend a lot of money initially. They do this to get a girl’s attention. They hope to spend less over time. If you think about it from the bimbo’s point of view, you can probably see the fatal flaw. This approach encourages girls to constantly find new sugar daddies who are willing to spend more up front.

Worse still, these sugar daddies will sometimes feel the need to sweeten the pot to win a girl back. Yeah, that’s why a girl you haven’t heard from in a while checks in on you. She figures you’re ripe for another big payment. Don’t fall for that. Consistency is key.

Pour Some Sugar on Me

The best advice I can give guys in Second Life on this topic is to be clear about expectations. Don’t give a girl money hoping that she’ll give you something of equal or greater value in return. A lot of them won’t. There are some bad actors out there. There are also girls who have gotten used to receiving presents and don’t think anything of it. They aren’t out to get you. They are just living a different reality.

My reality is that people give me stuff. I never ask for it. Most are trying to get my attention. I do my best to acknowledge gifts at a minimum. I don’t want anyone feeling ripped off. But I also don’t owe anybody anything unless we’ve reached an agreement. I will always follow through on my obligations. Everyone should.

If you want to be one of my sugar daddies, there is no set amount. Everything is negotiable. A lot of it is based on my time. Real life is a constraint. Real life always comes first. Also, I have a partner in Second Life and I’m fond of her. Some guys have tried to take her place. That’s not on the table, so don’t ask.

I don’t want to put anyone in a difficult financial position. But I don’t know your situation. Don’t offer me more than you can afford. I also don’t like spending my own money. It gives me the icks. The luxe life has always been and will always be funded by sugar daddies. As a good bimbo trophy, I love them all.

If you want to spoil me, I’m not going to say ‘no’. Just be patient with my schedule. I don’t like being pressured. Treat me like a person except when I want you to treat me like an object. None of this stuff is complicated. I’m a bimbo after all. Only boys who save their pennies make my rainy day.