Traditional Gender Roles: Accepting Your Truth in Second Life

Traditional gender roles are arbitrary and outdated. But as a bimbo, I am strongly attracted to these norms. There are times when it is best to accept your truth.

Subjectivity of Perception

The subjectivity of perception fascinates me. It lurks beneath the surface of a lot of my posts. The Bimbo Luxe mission is all about examining and resetting paradigms. I could write tomes about differences in perception based on gender. That stuff is constantly leaping out at me. In Second Life, my instant messages are filled with the male perspective. It’s always revealing. Sometimes for male insight. Often for its limitations.

This isn’t going to be another “guys are dumb” post though. You guys know you’re dumb. And trust me, SL girls know it too. Instead, I’m looking at traditional gender roles. Bimbos are all about embracing feminity. However, we get to be selective. It’s not all or nothing.

Enter Hugh. I have yet to meet Hugh in-world. I suspect someday I’ll have the pleasure. Hugh has commented on and shared some of my posts on Primfeed. (Be like Hugh.) He’s always been polite and insightful. And this is important! Hugh is curious. Oh god what a difference that makes! Nothing turns me off like mansplaining. Hugh strikes me as the rare guy who understands the limitations of his own perspective.

I was born with two X-chromosomes. Not a Y in sight. I was a pretty little blonde-haired, blue-eyed girl. Grew into my role as the girl next door. I went through all the socialization a pretty girl experiences growing up in America. I’m a 21st century bimbo. Awareness of these influences does not make me immune. I can never truly understand the male experience. But I’m interested.

Traditional Gender Roles

Traditional gender roles dictate rules of engagement. You open the door for me. Pull out my chair. It’s not just chivalry. These behaviors reinforce a social contract. The male offers protection and stability. As a female receiving such protections, I play a more passive role. Perhaps, even submissive.

The intellectual in me says that traditional gender roles are arbitrary. Outdated. And they are. You should never let societal norms limit or define you. But that doesn’t mean I don’t find them appealing. I read Hugh’s post, I Am a Man. It’s a very traditional male perspective. I can’t deny that I responded to it as a traditional woman.

Long after you’ve turned off your computer, when you sit alone in the dark and contemplate the day, you will think of me, the softness of my voice, the gentleness of my touch, and the scent of my presence. Your imagination may soar, and your hand may wander, but you will think of me.

Yes, Hugh. I have and I will.

Two Halves and Three Rights

Hugh understands that men and women can be two halves of a whole. That’s not an absolute. Darden, my partner in Second Life, is a woman. I’m a straight woman in real life, but in SL I found companionship with her. We click. Gender matters a lot less when our private parts are made of pixels.

I am not endorsing traditional gender roles. Far from it. They can be harmful. Love is love. It’s way past time to abandon homophobic and transphobic views. They are borne of fear, hate and a lack of understanding. I reject all of that nonsense.

Even so, there’s no denying that I have internalized a lot of gender norms. As an American bimbo, I am attracted to strong, confident men. Not toxic masculinity. A strong man can be vulnerable. A strong man treats me like the goddess I am. And takes me because he knows I want to be taken.

Is that a contradiction? Probably. Traditional gender roles are like that. Hugh writes about the three rights. “At the right time, in the right place, with the right person, anything is possible.” That’s a lot of conditions to be met! And I think that’s exactly right. It’s lightning in a bottle. Stars have to align. But when they do, traditional gender roles are like choreography. And we dance.