Ooops I Did It Again!

Recently I wrote about all the rules guests needed to know if they wanted to visit me at X-Sisters Bar. The good news is that you can disregard all of that. No, the rules haven’t changed. Instead, I was fired from the bar for suggesting that they might be. Oh well. It’s their loss. And now I’m free to spill the tea.

Let’s get into it.

Let’s Talk About Jess

Jess is the owner of X-Sisters and I have mad respect for her. She tells me that it’s mutual. Her actions suggest otherwise. But, I’m not going to bash her. Jess pays money to own and operate a large sim in SL. This is a service she doesn’t have to offer. If you chose to visit any of her businesses, you do so on her terms. That’s just the way it is.

I find Jess has a lot in common with other sim-owners I have known. I was hinting around this in my previous post about finding the fun in Second Life. Most sims are having trouble. Jess actually kind of kicked off this sequence of events with a blog post about her belief that Second Life is dying.

She pays attention to these things because they impact her income. Jess has a lot more riding on the health of Second Life than most of us do. So, I’m not going to argue with her findings. Observationally, there are a lot of empty and bot-filled sims everywhere you go. It backs up things I’ve said all along.

Jess and I have had a complicated relationship. On the one hand, she’s offered to mentor me and looked for ways to involve me in the X-Sisters brand. She is partially responsible for inspiring Bimbo Luxe and offered a few words of support and suggestions early on. (I actually listened to her advice because I want to improve.)

On the other hand, Jess can be distant. She’s a very busy woman so I don’t fault her for that. But dang! She had a spotty track record with me! Before I was fired from X-Sisters the first time, I was supposed to be the covergirl for an issue of X-Sisters Magazine. Jess scheduled a photoshoot with me and then never showed up. I reached out in-world and on Discord. Turns out she just forgot. Never rescheduled. I was fired soon after so it became a moot point.

When she fired me the first time, Jess sent me a very polite notecard. In it, she wished me well. Told me how talented I was and how sorry she was to let me go. The part I remember most vividly was that she said she always had time for me. Did she really believe that? I don’t know. Any time I have ever reached out to her, she didn’t respond or told me how busy she was.

I’m not trying to flame her. She’s free to do whatever she likes. That’s the beauty of Second Life. But when you treat people the way she does, it’s going to impact your in-world business.

How I Became an ex-X-Sister A Second Time

The first time I got fired, it was for violating a rule. I did break the rule. I thought and still think it was an arbitrary rule. The violation, to my mind, was harmless. But that’s not my decision to make. Maybe someday I’ll tell that story here. For now, I’m going to write about my most recent firing.

The staff has a Discord channel which includes weekly announcements from management. Today’s update came from a manager who is a friend. I found it refreshing. They said that they weren’t going to repeat all the usual messages (sell drinks, send lures, promote the games, etc). Instead, they offered up some rare affirmation to the staff. They also assured us that management was working on ways to improve business. It’s boring to sit around an empty sex bar, let me tell ya.

After reading this, I went to work. As a staff member, I was required to log a minimum of six hours to maintain my position. Truth is, X-Sisters was starting to feel like an obligation. But I was still putting in the hours in hopes business would improve. Or at least that the fun would come back!

My friend was working, so I asked them what kind of ideas management was working on. They said they were going to try to bring back customers who had become inactive. I responded that there are reasons those customers don’t come to the bar anymore. You might pull some of them back, but real change needs to be structural.

Yeah, I’m pretty smart for a bimbo.

We were having this conversation in local chat. I knew it was monitored. I knew speaking up could get me fired. There were a couple of managers there both of whom I considered to be friends. So I spoke my mind. I shared some very basic business management strategies that could turn things around at the bar.

Then the sim reset as happens on Wednesday mornings. One of the two managers and I talked right up until the reset which logged me out. I took a little time in the real world before logging back in. When I did, I received an IM from Jess herself. That’s never good news.

She told me that people had complained about my bad attitude. That multiple people didn’t want to work with me anymore. This is just a lie. There’s no spinning it. Jess is free to fire me, but don’t make up bullshit excuses. Not a single person complained about me.

Instead, Jess read my suggestions in local chat. Rather than hearing me out, she fired me. Removed me from the group and the Discord server. Unfriended me and banned me from her sims. Which is fine. If you’re going to treat me as disposable, I’d rather not be in your little club.

What Now?

It’s funny. I came back to X-Sisters a few months ago with excitement. I was planning to get more involved based on things Jess had said to me when she let me go. I thought there was an opportunity for me to make things better. I very quickly realized that was not the case. The very first suggestion I attempted to make was shot down before I finished typing it.

Ironically, I used those ideas to create Bimbo Luxe which has been an amazing success. Instead of promoting someone else’s venue, I am promoting myself. I couldn’t be happier with the results. And thank you to all of you for making Bimbo Luxe the positive, inclusive experience it is.

As it became clear that X-Sisters was going to be just a job, I started focusing more and more on my blogging. The Nhuma body has come out. It’s been a joy to explore it along with a bimbo lifestyle. Working at the bar put a lot of restrictions on me and my time. I’m free of all of that now which is frankly a relief.

I wish the girls at X-Sisters all the best. Even Jess. I hope they manage to turn things around. I won’t be there to find out and that’s fine. I expect Jess will read this. I expect I’m burning a bridge by posting it. If so, that’s fine too.

I would consider coming back to help put the bar back on the right track. But Jess would have to reach out to me and ask for my help. Things would have to be different. That’s not going to happen. The thing about a Second Life business is that you can run it anyway you want – even badly – as long as you’re paying to keep the lights on.